Day 4 - The value of learning about Human Design for your relationships.
How can we use this to free ourselves from the stories and conditioning of others and learn how to be more authentically ourselves. How do we learn to have compassion for others that seem so different from us. It felt like a good theme for today considering what is going on in this country.
So many (if not all) of the issues we seem to have in relationships are connected with our conditioning, the stories we were told and believed about ourselves, about others, about the world around us.
I look at what is currently happening and I see the suffering, the stories that are believed, the pain that is felt and how "if only I could get more" seems like it will fill the hole inside, and the desire to make other people conform to make them feel okay about themselves. Because... they don't.
When someone loves themselves so fully, what other people do in their own lives is of no consequence. There is no need to make someone else not be themselves for the sake of inner peace or to reduce suffering. Instead they look outward and want to change everyone and everything else because they think... THEN I will be okay. Everyone else is the problem and I fix all of them, then I will finally be okay.
I'm only interested in people being the most authentic version of themselves. The one where they look in the mirror and they radiate a sense of alignment, a sense of purpose and harmony, of understanding we are all valuable, we are all worthy of love, we are all capable of doing amazing things in our own ways.
Getting to be in relationship with someone who wants to decondition from the stories is really extraordinarily helpful.
When running a connection chart, it does not show you someone's lived experience. It shows the mechanics of energy, it shows the potential shadow sides and the potential optimized aspects of these energies.
And it shows where the most conditioning might have happened (or is currently happening.
It does not however, show what someone has done with those energies in their lifetime.
My teacher Karen Curry Parker likes to reiterate "We all have all the energy". No one is unable to access a certain type of energy that someone else has consistent access to. And just because someone has consistent access to a certain flavor of energy does not mean it is being utilized in a helpful/healthy way.
One of the most valuable aspects of learning Human Design has been to show me that the way I want to be treated isn't the way someone else might want to be treated.
It's a story we all get taught treat others as you would like to be treated. Which, basically is best read as "don't be a piece of shit to someone else" but also... you can't control what someone else thinks of you even if you feel like you are coming from a place of compassion and direct communication.
People operate differently than me. And most people have some aspect in which we operate very similarly. No one is all different and no one is all the same. Just because someone has the same chart does not make them the same.
This is not a labeling system to make definitive judgements upon someone else.
It can be used as a tool to have more compassion and empathy and better communication. I want to give people tools to have more of those things. They are so needed.
When learning about Human Design - there are a lot of things I like to teach people to keep in mind: "Really Important Things to Consider When Learning about Human Design"
