For Day 17, let's take a look at the defined + undefined G Center.
The idea in HD is that the traditional Hindu Heart/4th Chakra center "split" into the G center and the Will center, so there are parts of both those centers that very much feel like heart energy.
This is an easy topic for me to talk a lot about - I have an undefined G Center and my partner has a defined G center.
I feel like I can pretty easily see the conditioning I have had in particular around the topic of feeling love, being worthy of love, having a sense of identity and a direction. Of all those, having some kind of direction has been easiest for me, thank goodness my artistic tendencies were not squashed in my childhood or I may have really been challenged.
My identity has always felt really fluid. I can totally feel what it is like when people just "feel like themselves" and I always thought there was something broken or off about me that I didn't feel that way. For most of my life before I knew about HD I really sought out ways to figure out who I was. Like, every personality test every created, all the books and quizzes and perspectives on discovering "who you are". My identity is quite literally undefined.
On the topic of love... that has been a struggle. It sometimes still is, to actually FEEL loved. Some of it being conditioning in terms of what our society says - that is pretty ridiculous. I've just often though my experience doesn't match up with what other people experience. I often have to resort to cognitive understanding, which moves it in to the headspace, out of the body, and that is not the experience I want to have with love. This is still a journey. But what has helped....
My partner has a defined G center. And it is very common for people with undefined G centers to pair up with a defined G center because it FEELS good, I think in particular for the undefined G center person! haha! There's a better sense of that inherent ability to be loved that can feel so nebulous outside of that energy. And I'm not sure I've ever witnessed my partner questioning their lovability. And yes, absolutely someone with a defined G center can question their lovability, but it has been my experience that it is indeed something undefined G center folks really struggle with and not to the extent for those with it defined.
It is important for people to have an understanding of this center in relationship when it comes to the expression of identity.
People with an undefined G center may seem to be different around different people - which makes sense right? If an undefined G center amplifies defined G center - the undefined person can experience being like that other person when they're in their energy field.
For some partners that have a defined G center, they may not understand why their partner seems to be different depending on the people they're around. I think often, people with undefined G centers aren't totally aware of the fluidity being different because that fluidity IS part of the identity.
For people with defined G centers, they tend towards being themselves regardless of who they are around. Not all the time, as everyone has the capacity to adapt and be like a chameleon and some have needed to do so to remain safe regardless of definition.
Being "adaptable", but in a people pleasing or fawning/appeasing kind of way, is a different mechanism.
One of my favorite ways that Karen Curry Parker has described the difference between these two is that the when going in to a restaurant, an undefined G center will want to get the buffet while a defined G center will order off the menu.
This makes 100% sense to me. I LOVE variety. Trying electrolytes? Let me get 6 different flavors. And I won't pick one favorite because I like variety. Trying barefoot running shoes? I bought 5 or 6 different brands before finding the best one. And I do love a buffet or a potluck. I want to try little bits of all the things. The idea is that with an undefined G center, the trying is important. I won't "know" the direction I want to go in unless I've tried it and others.
I feel like this can come across as being indecisive or flaky, but I see it now as part of the process. Especially combined with a 3 line or 6 line (I have the 6), experimentation is built in to that desire to test out directions.
I see how it plays out with my partner, I seek variety in different ways than he does. And he does still very much like variety life.
Something to keep in mind is that the person with the undefined G can amplify the direction in life that the defined G center feels. It has the potential to become the direction that the undefined G center feels like they need to go in and that may not be true. It can also mean that the defined G center simply helps the undefined G find their own direction more easily. There can be a lot of nuances in how it shows up
I feel like I could write so much more on this topic. My partner only has two defined centers and with me having so many centers undefined, I feel like it really deepens my understanding of what it is like to have that contrast.
If you're in relationship (partner, parent/child, coworker) do you know if you or your partner have a defined or undefined G center? If so, what is your perspective/experience?
Don't know? You can run a free individual chart here or a free composite chart here.
