For Day 18 - How a 4 line and a 3/5 profile may interact
This is very much from my own lived experience and how it also very much aligns with what I was taught in Quantum Human Design. When Karen Parker said this it was a huge "ahhhhh, wow. THAT makes sense"
I am a 4/6 and one of my past partner's was a 3/5.
The 4 line in QHD is called the stabilizer. Though I don't 100% agree with all the talking points of the 4 line, there is a foundation of wanting to be stable. Whatever that may look like for someone... stability is helpful for growth and expansion.
I was discussing with someone the other day, it's like being on the top of a ladder that isn't well footed - and no one is holding it. Reaching for something just out of reach is a dangerous proposition - very unstable.
On the other hand, if it is well stabilized and/or someone is holding the ladder, reaching in a precarious way feels doable and safe.
Not only is there the desire for that stability to reach into the unknown, 4 lines can also provide that sense of stability to others. AND I think it can also feel... boring for some people.
The 3/5 tends to A. want adventure/exploration (the 3 line) and B. have a visionary way of thinking outside the box and wanting to test the limits (5 line) and the two together can seem alluring/attractive/exciting but not really "stable" in the energetic way of the 4 line.
There is the energy of "bonds made and broken" that is often repeated about the 3 line. This aspect of always comparing/contrasting/testing one person against another. It's like going in to the ice cream place, knowing that there is a favorite, but testing out other ones just to confirm that in fact your favorite is still your favorite.
"Everything" is testing to find the new paths forward for the individual, the tribe and the collective. The visionary leader testing out what will get out out of the stuck places we need to remove ourselves from.
However when in a relationship this 3/5 energy can quite literally feel like they're always testing the waters with other people. For some profile line energies/people, that may not matter, it might be welcomed, it may not even be felt. However, for the 4 line who low grade might be seeking a sense of stability all the time, may feel the ever testing nature of the 3/5 and never truly feel like they're on stable ground.
Here's where conditioning and lived experience can come in and where the energy of defined vs undefined centers and types all can interact.
Maybe the 4 line doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship, maybe they need a lot of space and a lot of energy feels too clingy or confining, enter in any scenario you can think of and some 4 lines may actually embrace that energy.
There is no set way for people to experience this energy BUT if you or your partner has a 4 line and the other is a 3/5 AND this has come up repeatedly... this is why.
I write to bring awareness because I believe with awareness comes understanding, compassion and the ability to have better relationships.
The 3/5 may not even be aware of how they're energy is being transmitted and why their 4 line partner feels jealous or like maybe they aren't good enough because they sense their partner mentally exploring or experimenting. It can be taken personally when it truly isn't. And sometimes... the 3/5 does act out the experimentation and may not understand why and be confused by their own actions.
WE ALL HAVE THE ABILITY TO ACT WITH INTEGRITY.
Just because HD says something does not mean it gives license for being unfaithful and to a partner that thinks you are in a committed relationship. It doesn't give permission to lie/cheat etc. We all get to make choices. We get to communicate to our partner's what our experiences are. And if there isn't that level of communication...? That's a topic not covered by HD, just regular relationship coaching. What else is going on? Why can't you communicate with your partner? Why are you in a partnership with someone you can't communicate with? All good questions to ponder.
There are subtle energies at play all the time and though we may not understand what is at play, we get to choose how we deal with it. HD can help bring understanding that can help aid in better conversations and deeper connection.
If you're in relationship (partner, parent/child, coworker) do you know if you or your partner have a defined will center? If so, what is your perspective/experience?
Don't know? You can run a free individual chart here or a free composite chart here.
