Project Introduction:
For those of you that know me, you know I love a project.
For the next 30 days I'm going to highlight some different aspects of Human Design that deal with relationships. While I enjoy doing single readings, HD makes the most sense for me when it is in relationship to another person. Human Design is a great way to learn about yourself, but it is immensely helpful for understanding similarities and differences between yourself and others. Besides twin charts, everyone has similarities and differences.
Having some knowledge of these similarities and differences can enhance our compassion and acceptance and understanding our partner, friends or just other people in general. What an amazing tool!
I'm not going to share information in any particular planned or outlined way, but feel in to what feels most potent to share each day. Some things on my list - defined vs undefined centers, communication styles by type, electromagnetic connections, "dominance" channels, authority types in relationship and more.
I can get really deep in to all the details, but for this project I am going to do my best to just share some. Please know there is so much more on each topic than what is shared here.
Day 1
The Emotional Solar Plexus - Defined vs Undefined
I will start by saying, nothing is better or worse, and everything has it's challenges.
I have an undefined ESP, so I will speak from experience on that and my understanding of what it is like to be in the presence of those with emotional definition as well as teachings on the topic. I cannot directly speak to what it is like to have emotional definition, only my experiences, observations and what I've been taught.
Around 50 - 53% of the population have emotional authority. All types except reflectors can have emotional authority (reflectors have no defined centers and always have lunar authority)
The theme for defined centers is self acceptance and the theme for undefined centers is self regulation.
To me, this seems to be highlighted the most through the Emotional Solar Plexus or ESP.
It is extraordinarily important for those with undefined or open ESP to learn emotional regulation. There is a distinction between what we are experiencing of other people's emotions and what WE are actually feeling. We have to learn to not take on other people's emotions and not try to control other people's emotions to just make ourselves feel okay. This is often where people pleasing comes in - a desire to regulate our emotions by controlling the outer circumstances.
When in relationship with each other, someone with an undefined ESP can actually amplify the emotions of the defined ESP. This can be played out in a household where a child with the undefined ESP seems more moody and emotional because they're amplifying all the emotionally defined people around them.
I lived most of my life thinking I was really moody and emotional until I started to learn to distinguish between "is this mine or someone else's". Usually the answer was, this is not mine.
Without knowing how to emotionally regulate and clear energy, for an undefined ESP there can be the experience that someone else's emotions are "too much".
One of the lessons for someone who is emotionally defined is that their emotions are their emotions and it is okay, healthy and aligned to feel your feelings and let them flow through. YOU are not too much. If someone else is feeling an amplified emotional experience, that is also okay and something you can understand is different. People with undefined ESP are sometimes accused of being cold or shut down (and obviously in some cases that might be true), but it is just a different experience to have emotional definition.
Defined centers broadcast their energy. Undefined/open centers can absorb, amplify and/or reflect the energy.
Can it be challenging to have a confusing emotional wave? Yes. Can it be challenging to not understanding your emotional experience because it is largely other people's emotions? Yes.
With understanding though, it can be a lot easier to be in relationship with each other though. Being around an emotionally defined person can feel wonderful, witnessing their distinct emotional experience is like art. Being emotionally undefined, for me, means I get to be wise about emotions - I get to explore a huge range of emotional experiences and create wisdom from what I have experienced and observed. Before I knew about human design I experienced partners' emotional waves and subconsciously learned to track the waves. Looking back over the decades, it's kind of fascinating.
I'm not going to go in to emotional authority in this section, just to say that if someone has a defined ESP, they have emotional authority. Emotional authority comes with emotional waves and when in relationship, it can be really helpful to explore this. Even when 2 people with defined ESP are in relationship, their emotional waves may be very different. Defined just means more distinct/fixed, not all.
Do you have a defined or undefined ESP? If you're in relationship (partner, parent/child, coworker) do you know those around you? If so, what is your perspective/experience?
Don't know? You can run a free individual chart here or a free composite chart here.
