For Day 22 - I'll share about the electromagnetic connection of the 40 and 37.
This is a connection my partner and I have and it was really fun to see how we navigated the energy before knowing anything about it.
The 40 is the gate of "aloneness" or restoration. It is a tribal gate and can create some interesting internal conflict in terms of wanting to be part of the tribe, but also needing to be kind of separate. The lesson of the energy is how to be in community and maintain one's energy by taking time alone and away from the community in order to restore. It is a lesson they can bring to everyone in the community (partnership/family). There is a deep commitment energy (coming off the will center) and desire to provide for self and others (can also lead to overgiving)
The 37 is the gate of friendship - this one is a bit harder for me to understand as this is not the gate I have, but in pairing with the 40 it does make sense. It is having the understanding of strong family bonds and can be known as the glue that holds communities together. There is an energy of giving and receiving reciprocation within relationships, the energy of exchange.
These two energies make a strong bond. It is a place also where bond/commitment/contract type energy lives and it is vital for there to be good communication around these things. There can be an energy of assumption and stories that live here that can lead to resentment if things are not openly discussed.
My partner and I read the 4 agreements together pretty early on in our relationship and I think this was key to things working really for us. We learned to communicate clearly (it is an ongoing practice all the time) and not make assumptions about what someone else might do or what we might want for them to do without talking about things.
An example of where this energy can get stick.
Person 1 goes out to work, person 2 stays home and works.
Person 1 assumes that person 2 will make dinner and do the laundry because they get to work from home all day, while they have to leave and be gone all day.
Person 2 is working all day and it was never discussed that they would cook dinner or do the laundry.
Person 1 is resentful or disgruntled because they have created a story that if they worked from home they would do that stuff.
Easy work around? Talk about it! Don't make assumptions.
Person 1 says hey, "I'm going to be gone all day, would you have time to make dinner and do the laundry."
Person 2 says, "I can put the laundry in and have it done by the end of the day but I need to stay focused and can't plan for dinner. Would you want to pick something up on your way home?"
Or enter any other potential scenario where stories and assumptions get made, where there is lack of understanding and resentment or frustration builds.
Even though there is the potential for strong bonds and commitments, part of that is being able to communicate clearly about them. When making an agreement it is helpful to have things spelled out and not make an assumption based upon the story in your head about how things "should" be based upon your point of view.
And remember... things can always be renegotiated!
I feel like these lessons can be used by anyone in a relationship.
Do you and your partner have one of these gates? Or does one of you have the full channel - someone who has the full channel can also bring this energy to the relationship.
Don't know? You can run a free individual chart here or a free composite chart here.
