For day 23, taking a look at the 5 - 15 electromagnetic connection.
Unlike yesterday's, this one is not one my partner and I have, but a good friend and her partner do and we've talked about it a lot.
This is a place where being able to know the differences can make a huge impact on how each person relates to each other.
I think it is mostly human nature to think that most people should be like us or vice versa, we should be like most people and either we think other people are broken or we are broken if that is not the case.
If the message we get from society is that we are "normal" for the thing we excel at, then we are okay. And if the majority of society says we should be a certain way that we aren't, it can be easy to think that we aren't normal, we aren't okay, we need to be fixed, we need medication or something other intervention. One of the reasons I love human design is it often so clearly just says, hey, how you are, is just right. Other people are different and that is just right for them and yes, they are nearly opposite from each other. Neither person is broken or weird. And yes, society might praise one over the other, but that doesn't mean we need to change to conform. When in fact trying to change to conform out of what is aligned for us can cause serious issues.
Onwards to the 5 and 15.
I see the gate 5 as the one our society likes to praise. A more regular rhythm that likes for things to be on the calendar at the same time each week and doesn't like to deviate so much from the regularity. It likes consistency, routine, regularity - breakfast at the same time every day, picking up their child from school at the same time every day. There is a certain element of "fixedness" that can come with this energy. On their own, those with the gate 5 may seem a bit rigid.
In contrast, the gate 15 is the gate of extremes. The gate 15 energy loves variety, flexibility and fluidity. It too is about rhythm. These two form the channel of rhythm and all about the balance of the two forming a natural rhythm. Neither is better than the other, but it seems like most people tend towards one or the other.
While the gate 15 can do very well short term routines and rituals, the tend to shift every so often. A new work out routine? Amazing! It'll last a week or 6 and then it's time for something new. A different workout routine that provides something new.
This kind of thing can often look to others like lack of consistency because they're always switching it up. But does it really matter? To someone with the gate 15, yes! In fact it is extraordinarily healthy for them to follow their "inconsistent" rhythm. Someone with the gate 15 might do best to work for themselves so they can shift and change what they're doing when they're doing it. Maybe it's seasonal, maybe it's monthly.
Chances are someone with the gate 5 might find the workout routine that works for them and they won't deviate from it because it works and works well and there's no impulse to change to something new.
With awareness a couple that has this electromagnetic connection can really embrace each other's methods and see how their life can unfold together playing to each other's strengths.
If they're parents, maybe one parent does the daily regular school pick up and the other parent does the random field trip, the once a week after school program, the special breakfast before the holiday.
For shared household responsibilities, maybe the person with the gate 5 does the takes the garbage out every Thursday night. Maybe the person with the gate 15 does the laundry whenever they feel like it.
What are the things that work best to be done very consistently the same and what are the things that can be really flexible?
This is a connection that I love because it is such an amazing example of how with judgement and lack of awareness it can create a lot of tension. The person with the gate 5 thinking the person with the 15 should be more consistent and be able to stick to a routine. And the person with the gate 15 wanting the person with the gate 5 to be more flexible and less rigid. Both having the potential to feel like either the partner should change and be more like them, or that there is something wrong with them for not being able to be different.
It is an aspect where each person can enrich the other person's life. The gate 15 can bring some variety and flexibility to the 5 and the 5 can help to bring some grounded routine and consistency to the 15. This doesn't mean that either person needs to be like the other, but both can be enhanced.
I personally am attracted to the energy of the 15 (my friend is the one with the 15) and my partner also has the 15. Maybe it is all the undefined centers I have, but consistency and same-ness and routine have never really been my thing. I love variety and that energy feels comfortable and fun for me.
I have heard some people, in particular ones with the 5, can feel really challenged by people with the gate 15. I find that so fascinating because I do feel drawn to the 15. I think a lot of conditioning can happen here also - when people are praised for long term consistency of anything, that is applauded. Somehow wanting variety and change is often seen as a flaw... but considering how everything is changing all the time... I tend to see it as adaptive and fitting for the world we live in. And do I sometimes wish being consistent was easy for me, yes! haha!
My goal with sharing Human Design is to say, hey, let's find what works best for you and how we can find that using this blueprint? How can everyone be a little more accepting of themselves and other's and the differences that allow us each to work optimally for our own energy?
Do you or your partner have the gate 5 or 15? If so, what are your experiences?
Don't know? You can run a free individual chart here or a free composite chart here.
